FEAR……

FEAR……

We always fear our future and the future is yet to happen. We started assuming things that it’ll happen in future and also assuming their results that make us worried . Being fearful means we are suffering with that which does’nt exist. Its all in our mind and as deep as our mind allows.

To fear something is again natural phenomena and almost every person fear something at some stage or at different timings. But we should be brave enough to conquer our fear. Here I am not talking about phobia which is extreme form of fear like fear of places, heights, flying etc . I am talking about fear of future happenings. 

Stress is another name of fear. We keep ourself stressed because we fear that something bad gonna happen or things are not going to happen the way we want them to be. Do’nt take stress and do’nt let that fear stops you from achieving your goals in life. 

We do’nt follow our dreams just because we fear failures. Howcome you know that you’ll not be able to achieve your goals and even that, without trying. Its all in your mind. Its not failure itself. Its feeling of failure in your mind that stops you from achieving your goal. Thats only your thought, nothing real but because of that you are refraining yourself from what you can do best in your life. As I have explained before as well that failure is one of the process of success. We can’nt learn anything from just being perfect and not doing any mistakes. All of us are humans. We’ll certainly do mistakes. All of us…. So no worries. You are in learning process. Once failed does’nt mean that you can’nt try again. We fear to try again because we are just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason again or from our failures. What if you succeed this time?. Try try again. Do’nt think what people gonna say about your failure, how they’ll react and about their rejection. If twenty will be against you, rest eighty will be with you. So that does’nt matter. Keep on trying. Atleast you are not sitting and passing negative comments on others. You are working hard to achieve your goals.

Past can’nt be changed and future is unpredictable but your good thoughts with positive approach can make your present and future better. Try to live in the present day. Living in present day does’nt mean that we do’nt plan our future. It means once planned then work in that direction but no need to take tension or stress. Otherwise you’ll stop enjoying your life. Each single day is a blessing and enjoy it fully. Enjoy even small moments in your life like spending time with your family, watching movies, going out for fun, dining out, even having cup of tea or coffee with your loved ones. Enjoy it. Like this you’ll be able to enjoy your whole life except I know things happened  in our life but deal them as and when it comes. Keep on thinking of something will not solve our problem rather it’ll increase it.

I always tried and love to enjoy my every single day with my family. Although I also planned for future but I live in a present day. I am also following my dreams by spending each day beautifully and  not by taking tension or fearing something. If we allow ourself to relax and live in a current day then life will be alot more better and beautiful. Nothing can harm us except Allah’s/ God’s will. If its written then its gonna happen but do’nt forget that we’ve option of prayer to even change our fate. So better pray for your good life along with doing your best effort for achieving your goals. 

Fear is not real. Its all in our mind. Think positive, believe in yourself, be confident and courageous to…..

“FACE YOUR FEARS TO OVERCOME THEM.”

Keep Smiling😊,

Noor Saeed.

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WAY OF TEACHING

WAY OF TEACHING

Teaching is my passion and I love it. There are no rules for perfect way of teaching because we all teach who we are? For example, my students apart from learning sales and marketing, human resourse management, lean management, business management; also learn how to be more confident and have positive attitude towards life. How they can grow with their existing skills? They also learn to say thanks for whatsoever they have in their life to achieve more. For teachers , its very important to love, what they teach.

For a good teacher its important,

  • To understand the psyche of their student. All students are different with different psyche. 
  • Get yourself introduced to each other so that they feel bit easy. Its not good to start teaching just after entering the class. Especially, when you met your student for the first time.
  • Know your students – their talents, background, prior experiences.
  • Ask your student that why they need this certification. They should be clear about it.If you are teaching in school and colleges, even then its important to make the base of a student. If they are going to study any subject, tell them what this subject is all about. 
  • We can’nt teach all students the same way. Some are visuals, some like reading from book and others want both ways to follow. We have to ask them in the start that how they are comfortable in learning then use that medium. Thats how they’ll be in more accepting mode and will be able to learn more effectively.
  • Be very simple in your teaching because its all about them and not about us that how expert we are in that particular topic/subject.
  • For a teacher its very very important to go down to your student’s level and bring them up to your level. Please do’nt ever criticize your student whether you are teaching in school, colleges, universities or as a trainer. Its your job to read your student’s mind and teach them accordingly. By the time they leave that classroom , they should know each and everything you know. Their concepts should be very clear.
  • Good teaching is always two way communication. Involve your student in discussions. Encourge them to give their point of view as well for the related topic. Even if they are wrong, no issues. Let them think and use their mind. Make them comfortable that its ok if they are wrong, give it a try. Always encourge them if they share their ideas.
  • Give them day to day life examples to make their concepts clear. Mostly students learn quickly like this.
  • Once lecture delivered then repeat the topic. Do’nt be boring and maintain an eye contact with your student. 
  • Ask them questions and listen to them. Check whether their concepts are clear or not. If they are trainee then give them case study related to their background, where they are working. In this way they’ll learn more. 
  • Make groups of students. Give them topics to discuss. Let them have group study. If you have trainees then ask them to prepare case study about each others organizations. That will help them to not only know their organization way of working but also the other organization way of working. 

Here I would also like to share one incident for those parents who without knowing or listening their child started scolding them because teacher complaint about them. Its not must that teacher is always right. My son was studying in year 3 . I used to teach him by myself . I know his all plus minus points. He was very good in studies as I mentioned above I believe in making base of student and giving clear concept. After mid-term he showed me his maths paper. There I saw all addition sums he did correctly then rub it  and write wrong answer. I inquired him because I knew that he was very good in maths. He told me accurate answer. I asked him why you did’nt write here the correct answer. He told me , “Mama teacher asked me to rub the answer and instead of solving it vertically, count them horizontally and then write the answer”. I checked and count it horizontally and answer was the same which he wrote. I got shocked that why teacher did this. I went to management and explained everything and asked them a favour that in next exams that teacher should’nt be in his class and they should check his paper when he finished then afterwards when she checked. They did the same and caught that teacher as she herself ,this time, rubbed and changed his answer. The reason I found out was that her own child was in the same class and she did all this to make her child position best in the class. 

After this incident, my son appeared in IBT test middleeast and got award for excellence in maths and high distinction in english along with my other two sons who got high distinctions. So its my request to all parents that please listen to your child as well. What situations they are facing. Then take any action.

For teaching its all about that,

“TEACHERS WHO LOVE TEACHING TEACH STUDENTS TO LOVE LEARNING.”

Keep Smiling:),

Noor Saeed.

SADNESS

SADNESS

When we become sad?  When we desire something and its not fulfilled. When we want something badly, either things or relations and are not able to get them. “Our own created desires” make us unhappy/sad. Once we drop those desires, we’ll be happy again. Now question is “should we be able to drop our desires”. The answer lies within ourselves. We have to decide that we want to live our life in depression or we deserve better life.

Life is a continuous struggle from birth till death. Everyone is struggling in their own life only the scenario is different. For a better life we have to be a clear headed person that what we want in our life. Once goal set then go for it. Work really hard because only hardwork with  disciplined life pays off. While walking on your path, you’ll do alot of mistakes. Its ok. At least you are trying and moving towards your goal. Do’nt be sad /depressed on your mistakes/failures as they are key to success. Its not your fault. You are in a learning process . what you gain is an experience and there is no substitute for experience.

We also become sad/depressed , if we are missing someone we loved and now they are not in our life. I lost my young brother last october. That pain I found the most unbearable pain in life. But now I am happy for him because Allah/God has given us option to pray for our loved ones and that can increase their ranks in jannah and also their sins will be forgiven. If I look around, almost everyone praying for him. All close relations and especially my mom and dad. That thing gives me peace. I am happy for him because so many hands raising to pray for him. We all have to go one day but he has alot of people praying for him. May Allah forgives all his sins and gives him place in jannah.

There are people who love someone but they are not getting love in return. Remember one thing that we can’nt force anyone to love us and stay in our life. Think of the life in which the person you want ,in your life , is not at all interested in you. How miserable life that would be, even if you have them . Let them be free. If you want to have healthy relation then try to win others heart and soul and that you can do if you love someone unconditionally. The only way love can last for a life time is if its unconditional because,

“Love is unconditional, relationships are not”.   (Grant Gudmundson)

If you want to overcome your sadness then first of all you have to accept it that you are sad . Try to find out the reason of sadness and share it with people to whom you can trust. Its ok to be sad sometimes as its natural. Important thing  is to come out of it as soon as possible. Meditation and listening music also help to come out of sadness for some people. But tell you what…….

“Smile has strongest positive effect on our mood. So if you are feeling sad, try to smile and…

Keep Smiling:),

Noor Saeed.

A TRIBUTE TO MY FATHER

A TRIBUTE TO MY FATHER

Father – daughter’s first love and its true but I am here because I want whole world to know that how good husband he is.

My father has done Mechanical Engineering and then Master of Engineering in Mechanical design (stress analysis) and he is gold medalist. His job was designing, installation and commissioning of machinery plants and equipment. More than twenty three plants were installed and commissioned, under his supervision, by him and his team.

He is a very brilliant person. Along with his other qualities, he is a very good husband. My mom,in her forties, got sick to the level that she was not able to move even one finger. That day, I still remembered, when I was sleeping by her side in the afternoon. We woke up as usual for our tea time but when she got up, she fell down. I tried to pick her up. My father, brothers, everyone came to support her but she was not able to get up. Gradually, her whole body stiffed with time. We (me and my brothers) were very young at that time. My youngest brother was only eight years old. 

My father, even after that condition of my mom, took really great care of her and shared same bed with her. All friends, relatives and even my mom asked him to get married again but he refused. He said to my mom that you took great care of me , all through my life since we got married, you took care of my children and now its my turn. I saw him praying on plain floor,without praying mat, late at night and making dua for my mother. In the morning when I saw him giving massage to his knees and asked him that what happened baba/ father.He used to reply that nothing. I am fine. I know that my father did’nt move his leg whole night which was supporting my mother’s leg because she could’nt move. Once we turned her one side then she stayed there as she was not able to move by herself. My father never wanted to disturb her.

Got her checked everywhere. We came to know that she has “polymyositis disease”. Doctors said that she’ll be alive for few months more. My father did’nt give up. He studied homeopathic and got degree from well know institute. He started my mother’s treatment. After few months she started getting better. With both exercise and treatment, she was able to walk and move her body. Now still she is not able to get up by herself . We have to pick her up then she can walk but Alhamdulillah she is alive, cured and with us.

Now even after fifteen years, my father still love her very much. Its because of his love that she was cured. Its because of his love that she is still beautiful. I love my father from the core of my heart for loving my mom so much, for letting us know the true meaning of patience, for letting us know how to keep relations, for always being humble and polite, for always calling me and saying ;he had feeling  that I am not feeling good even if I did’nt inform him, for caring others and being so positive, for understanding and trusting me, for always praying for me and loving unconditionally.

Simply,

“BABA I LOVE YOU AND ALWAYS NEED YOU IN MY LIFE. YOU ARE BLESSING TO US”.

Keep Smilingâ˜ș,

Noor Saeed.

SPRING SEASON IN DUBAI

SPRING SEASON IN DUBAI

The spring season is here in Dubai. Yesterday, I went with my family to a park in Dubai. There I saw colourful flowers, nice, refreshing wind was blowing and the sound of the birds, all were giving so positive energies and feeling of happiness. There we played basketball and tennis. The whole time spent there was very pleasant. 

I like spring season as many flowering plants bloom this time of year. Everywhere looks green and colourful because of blooming trees and flowers. My mother is very fond of having beautiful flowers in our house. Every spring season our house is full of  different colourful flowers and green trees. Nice fragrance spreads everywhere. We used to enjoy alot our family time by sitting in the garden with bloomed flowers, sweet fragrance, birds voices, greenery all around and on top of that having a cup of tea . Family time was  and is still very precious for me. We should try to spend more and more time with family other than our working hours. The memories of that time will always give you very sweet and pleasant feeling.

Spring is the best time to visit Dubai as well as temperature is moderate (below 30 degree). People can spend their time on the beautiful beaches of Dubai and can explore the cities of UAE. If you want luxury limousines then do’nt hesitate to contact usâ˜ș.
“ENJOY HAPPY DAYS OF SPRING IN DUBAI”

Keep Smilingâ˜ș,

Noor Saeed.

POSITIVE PARENTING

POSITIVE PARENTING

Our children are not our property, they are part of us. We’ve to deal them with love, politeness, and care. We’ve to love them instead of showing possession only. They are angels, very innocent souls.

PARENTING TIPS:

  • Continuous praying for them as your prayers are their biggest assets of life.
  • Deal them with love and care.
  • Whenever they come to you, to share something, listen to them attentively so they feel that you are taking interest in what they are saying.
  • When they do something for us, help us in any manner that could be even a glass of water they give us, say thank you to them. They’ll learn like this to say thank you so that when we’ll do something for them they’ll be thankful to us.
  • Talk to them in a polite way so they can be polite to us.
  • Give them confidence that they can share each and everything with us without any hesitation. Not like that if they share something you start scolding them. Be like a friend.
  • They’ve to move in a society. Tell them good and bad touch and be very open up to child about this right from their childhood. Train them to share everything with you.
  • We’ve to be very observant and notice any change that comes in our child behaviour . Try to discuss out things with your child about what he/she is going through.
  • Do’nt let anyone to exploite your child. Tell your child about exploitation and how one can take advantage of them. Train them to be very transparent with you so you can help them in that situation.whether its in school, college,university level or even at work place. Our child always needs us. 
  • If they are weak in something like studies, give them confidence that its ok not to be perfect and try to work out things with them so they improve, without letting them feel that you are helping them.
  • Many people now a days suffering from personality complex. Please guide your child from their childhood that they are perfect the way they are. Tell them that you are creation of Allah/God and you cannot be more perfect then this. We should be happy about this fact that our creator is Allah/God and we should love ourselves.
  • Many students bully other students at school, college and university levels especially if your child is habitual of sharing things with you. They get label of mummy,daddy’s boy/girl. Give confidence to your child that they are doing the right thing and they should inform those people that not only once, thousand times we’ll share things with our parents. Then they’ll not bother them. 
  • If you are educated then try to teach your child by yourself. Make their strong base in studies. If you are muslim then try to teach them” The Holy Quran” by yourself. Like this whenever they’ll recite Quran you’ll get reward as well. If you see its a life time investment and life time reward.
  • Help them in their studies. I’ve seen few parents who without knowing the fact that what your child is going through , started scolding their child within the school infront of teacher, on a complaint from teacher’s side. Please try to find out the truth. I’ve seen teachers who used to have personal grudge with a child because parents point out something about them. Stay very close to your child. (I’ll write article about teacher students relationship in detail later based on facts and how we can improve that as I am also a trainer).
  • Spend time with your child daily. Watch any favourite programme of them, have gossips, listen each and everything they want to share about school , friends and teachers.
  • Do’nt leave your child alone with a maid or any other person . Keep an eye on maid. If you are working then bring your parents to your place. Its better to leave your child in the presence of your parents with maid.
  • Puberty period is the most important time of your child. Please stay very close to your child and explain each and everything to your child ,according to their age ,in advance. This is the stage where they can be guided wrongly by friends and other people around them. Give them confidence that they can discuss anything with you and that people can exploite them because of not having awareness.
  • If we’ll be like a friend with them and they are relaxed in our company, can share anything with us then believe me that its blessing for both of us .

To conclude I would say that,

  • Want them to respect you then show them respect from childhood.
  • Want them to listen to you then listen to them when they are sharing something. Do’nt ignore. They also have heart to feel and mind to think.
  • Want them to pray then pray infront of them right from their childhood.
  • Want them to appreciate what you do and be thankful to you then be thankful to them ftom their childhood for small,small things they do for you.

They learn from us. Its our way of teaching, bringing up of our child that has big question mark? When we’ve children then we need to put time and effort both with them. Stop possessing your child, start loving them because,

“PARENTING IS ALL ABOUT LOVING YOUR CHILD”.

Keep Smilingâ˜ș,

Noor Saeed.